Now, I pose a question: How sick does one have to be for someone to say, "Feel better?" Here is a link to an article Toni Bernhard wrote about what to say to sick people - http://www.kevinmd.com/blog/2012/08/helpful-sick.html.
Now, I'm sure she means people who are terminally ill or who live with chronic incurable diseases, right? Well, how sick DOES one have to be for someone to say, "Feel better?" My observances have been that people turn away and mind their own business, especially online. They don't want to hear that you have bronchitis, pneumonia, or plantar fasciitis, multiple sclerosis, arthritis, or let alone any of the terminal illnesses. Are we afraid we'll catch something if we say something nice even through the computer? Do we secretly think that the person should suffer in silence, because we all get sick at some point?
Mo is definitely trying to answer one of my questions in "Feeling the Pain of Others," http://scienceblogs.com/neurophilosophy/2009/12/17/feeling-the-pain-of-others/, on a Science blog. S/he says, "People with mirror-touch synaesthesia are known to experience touch sensations when they see others being touched, and this may also extend to pain in such individuals. There are also several anecdotal cases of patients who experience pain in the absence of noxious stimuli. And a new study by British psychologists now provides evidence that a significant minority of healthy people can also experience pain when seeing others’ injuries."
Uh oh, I'm sorry if I made somebody feel sick when I was sick. But isn't Mo's news good news? If we can feel somewhat what another is feeling without actually being sick, can't we then be nice and say, "Hope you feel better soon?" Mo goes on to say, "The pain responders were found to have a stronger emotional response to the images and film clips of injuries, and this was associated with stronger activation of the pain matrix components involved in processing the emotional content of the stimuli. They also reported higher levels of empathy with the people depicted in the photos and films."
Wow. Then, when finding a mate and some friends, find people who are pain responders? What if I'm not a pain responder? Is there any way to become better at that? There are probably articles out there that address that question, and this morning, I still have a sinus infection or tonsillitis or something, so, I'm not going to look them up right now. I've been writing and researching since for 3 hours, and I need breakfast = Veggie Broth and toast, LOL. But I've already written this:
The great thing is that personally when I am in the presence of somebody, and they notice I am sick, they usually do say, "Get better soon," or "Go home, you shouldn't be at work." The not so great thing is that I'm not around many people, except students and colleagues, so, I generally do not open my mouth and say I'm feeling sick. I've rarely posted it on Facebook and have come to realize people ignore those types of posts, maybe because of the reasons I cited above, or maybe they don't want to waste their time writing, "Get better soon." I've also noticed some other people post when they are feeling sick, and many people ignore them, too, so, I'm not alone in this. Maybe I'm the only one that doesn't have family who can run out and buy me tissues when I am too dizzy with a sinus infection to drive. That's silly. I know there are people out there who need help once in a while, too.
Which brings me to another link, http://www.lotsahelpinghands.com/who-we-help/, Lotsa Helping Hands. Yeah, I don't think anybody runs out for tissues from this link, but this is a nice organization helping lotsa people.
Oh ha ha ha, I just found this list of the top ten incurable diseases. Number one is the common cold. Say, "Feel better." It makes people smile.
Oh, I could buy some hankies and wash them. That's definitely a good solution to running out of tissues. :)